When to CONSIDER seeing a therapist,
When you NEED to see a therapist,
When to get help IMMEDIATELY.
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Picking names out of a list and reading endless profiles, what to look for?
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The 5 reasons culturally informed therapy is a must.
A valid question. Scientific research and our experience say yes. Therapy does work. And, we practice psychodynamic therapy, which research shows not only works but continue working even after you stop therapy.
Five things the therapist is thinking and doing in session that is different from reading a self help book or talking to a friend.
Going to therapy once a week, every week at the same time is ideal to provide the consistency for the work to deepen. Sometimes, in moments of crisis, twice a week appointments will be beneficial. And, we realize that for some every other week is best due to the nature of the work, time constraints, and finances. It's best to discuss your concerns with your therapist and decide on what would work best.
The answer will vary. For some, therapy might be brief (under 20 sessions) if they are dealing with a specific event that is causing acute stress. For others, it might take many more sessions. Most people find therapy helpful and stay in therapy even after the initial reason that brought them to therapy is resolved. You have the right to stop therapy anytime and it can be discussed with your therapist.
Therapy works best when it is self initiated. So trying to convince them to go to therapy might not work. But maybe sharing information with them about therapy can lessen their resistance toward therapy. Share articles on our website about therapy or bring them to one of our events.
Therapists are bound legally and ethically by confidentiality. We cannot disclose to a third party your name, whether you are a client, and the contents of our sessions without an official release of information from you.
There are exceptions when:
Therapists, at least Theralane therapists, will not give you concrete advice. They won't tell you whether you should take job offer, or move to a different city, or break up with boyfriend, or stop talking to a relative. They will help you trust yourself to arrive at your own decisions.
The question to ask yourself is why do I want the therapist to give me advice. Do I not trust my own ability to make decisions? Do I want someone to take care of me? Is it hard not knowing what the "right" decision is? I don't want to be responsible for the consequences, etc.
If you are in individual and couple/relationship therapy, you should have two different therapists. One for the individual work and one for the couple's work. In couple work, the client is the relationship. This doesn't mean the therapist will advocate staying together or breaking up, it just means that the therapist is focused on the dynamics of the relationship. Therefore, you want different therapist so there is no bias in the treatment. With your permission, the therapists can consult with each other if they think it will be helpful.
For individual therapy, it's tricker to answer.
The consensus is that you shouldn't have two therapists working on the same issue without knowledge of each other as it might interfere with progress of the therapy and even your safety.
Some therapists believe that you could have two therapists working with you on different issues using different modalities as long as those therapists are aware of each other and communicating with each other to coordinate your care.
And, there is a possibility of finding a single therapist who is able to work with the entirety of your needs. The same therapist can be specialized in ADHD and be aware of indigenous healing practices. It might just take more time and effort to find them.
It's best to discuss your particular situation with a licensed therapist to see what would be best.
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